Key Points

• Sex toys bring pleasure to anyone regardless of their gender, genitals, sexual orientation, race, or age.
• Erasing the gender limits of sex opens doors to a whole world of pleasure and possibilities.
• Explore the use of toys regardless of your gender or genitals, and regardless of your partners.
• View these sex toys as gender-neutral, non-binary, pansexual, and totally inclusive — then get kinky!

Sex toys are a celebration of the diverse world of pleasure. They’re a testament to the fact that pleasure knows no boundaries and that everyone, regardless of gender, deserves to explore and enjoy their body’s capacity for pleasure. Sex toys are there to add an extra layer of excitement, pleasure, and connection — with no awareness of your gender or sexuality. They’re inclusive!

According to statistics published in February 2023, only 7.2 percent of adult Americans identify as LGBTQ+. More than half of the identified LGBTQ+ people identify as bisexual, meaning they’re interested in multiple genders. This percentage has slowly risen throughout the years, according to statistics. It’s great to see the world become progressively more gay!

Pleasure for All

Have you ever considered the exhilarating world of sexual exploration, where the boundaries of gender fade into the backdrop, and the emphasis is solely on the joy of human connection and pleasure? Well, it’s time to embark on a thrilling journey of self-discovery and mutual fulfillment, exploring sexual satisfaction with people of all genders. This isn’t just about pleasure — it’s a celebration of inclusivity. Okay, it’s a lot about pleasure too. Let’s talk about sex toys for any couple, regardless of gender or sexual orientation.

Each partner is a unique blend of experiences, emotions, desires, and sensations. Sexual exploration is a testament to the human capacity for enjoyment and connection. Whether you identify as LGBTQ+, straight, or prefer no labels, this adventure is for everyone who values the beauty of pleasure and inclusivity. Have sex with any type of person you want, as long as they want it to.

Breaking Down Gender Barriers

One of the most captivating aspects of the modern narrative on sex is that you get to break down the age-old barriers that separate humans and relationships by gender. The exciting fact here is that gender isn’t a limitation, it’s a rich tapestry waiting for exploration. Embrace the ever-widening spectrum of human intimacy.

With gender no longer serving as a barrier, you’re open to a diverse range of experiences that are emotionally enriching and physically exhilarating. Pleasure doesn’t discriminate. It’s a vast playground of sensations and connections. The possibilities for pleasure lie in your willingness to explore.

The Power of Communication

Communication is your best ally in this journey. Honesty, respect, and consent become the pillars that support your adventurous explorations. Openly express your desires and boundaries while being receptive to your partner’s wishes. This dynamic exchange is where true comfort, empowerment, and pleasure await you.

Educate yourself on safe sex practices and health. Regular health check-ups, safe sex, and open dialogues about STIs are essential components of a free and fulfilling sex life.

The Freedom of Self-Discovery

Sexual pleasure isn’t just about engaging with others. It’s also about unearthing your own desires and preferences. There’s so much liberation and power in the fact that you’re free to explore, experiment, and redefine your own boundaries and inclinations through masturbation. Who could know your body better than you?

Sex Toys for All

Turn up the excitement of any sexual encounter by introducing sex toys. Sex toys aren’t just gadgets for extra horny people. They’re tools of pleasure and connection that amplify the thrill of your intimate encounters. These delightful companions seamlessly integrate into your journey of inclusive pleasure, making it even more exhilarating. That is, if everyone is enthusiastically consenting!

Variety and Versatility

The world of sex toys is a playground of variety. From vibrators to dildos, from BDSM accessories to app-controlled devices, the options are as diverse as the spectrum of human pleasure. These toys don’t discriminate; they cater to all genders, preferences, and desires. Okay, some are specifically for a clitoris or prostate, but there are plenty to choose from regardless of your anatomy and identity.

There are toys intended for certain audiences or anatomies, typically for cishet couples. For example, vibrating cock rings advertise clitoral stimulation for the nubby vibrator. However, vibrating cock rings are enjoyable for anyone. Wrap the loop around your fingers for a finger vibrator. Adjust the vibrating device to stimulate the perineum of a receiving man. Use it to masturbate and feel an extra sensation on your scrotum! Let’s reframe the world of sex to suit anyone who wants to find pleasure.

Additionally, strap-on dildos are often seen as a tool for lesbians to engage in penetration. However, they’re perfect for pegging, couple penetration, or even oral sex fantasies. They also play a role in the gender affirmation of trans men. Let your imagination run free and discover the endless possibilities of toys.

Whether you’re enjoying the company of someone (or several people) of the same gender, opposite gender, or any gender in between, there’s a sex toy to suit your unique needs and desires. What are you fantasizing about?

Enhancing Connection and Pleasure

Sex toys are not just about physical pleasure — they’re powerful tools for emotional and sensory connection. Incorporating sex toys into your intimate moments is a shared experience, a way to enhance mutual pleasure and create lasting memories. They often have a stigma of replacing someone who isn’t good in the bedroom, but they actually enhance your experience. Can you make your fingers vibrate? I didn’t think so.

As with any aspect of intimate exploration, open communication is crucial when introducing sex toys into the equation. Discussing desires, boundaries, and preferences with your partner(s) is mandatory and useful. It ensures a consensual and enjoyable experience while fostering trust and connection.

Just as with any other aspect of intimacy, it’s essential to prioritize safety and hygiene when incorporating sex toys. Expertise in this area means understanding how to clean and maintain your toys properly, as well as using them safely and responsibly. Understand how your toy works and what kind of care it needs.

Vibrators

Vibrators are often designed and marketed for clitoral stimulation. While these certainly work magic on your clitoris, they have so many possibilities for pleasure. Use a vibrator on your nipples for boosted stimulation. Use it to give your partner a massage. Amp up your foreplay by exploring the whole body’s erogenous zones. Use it on a clitoris, perineum, penis, vulva, or literally anything else that feels good.

First, find a versatile vibrator suited for many different parts of the body.

Palm-Shaped, Bendable Vibrator

This palm-sized and incredibly bendable toy is the perfect shape to fit into different crevices and explore. The Dame Pom has different angles, shapes, and vibrations for you to get creative. It’s fully waterproof for playing in the bath and for easy cleaning. It fits into the palm of your hand for complete control. It’s easily rechargeable and adaptable.

While vulva owners find the Pom most enjoyable, the fun doesn’t stop there. It’s popular for trans-women and anyone who wants to explore vibrational pleasure. It’s totally adaptable and the perfect shape to fit under the balls and stimulate the perineum.

Handheld Personal Massager

A reliable, easy option for a versatile massager is the plusOne Personal Massager. This little guy is affordable, straightforward, and is sure to satisfy. It has a small, palm-sized handle with a small ball on the top. It provides impressive vibrations anywhere you want them! Explore and see what you like best. The ball provides targeted vibrations to just about any body part you wish.

Cock Ring + Bullet

Explore the magic of a cock ring and a bullet vibrator in one magical combo: Tracey Cox Supersex Twin Silicone Vibrating Love Ring. Use the cock ring on its own to intensify erections and sensitivity, with one loop for the shaft and one for the testicles. Add the bullet vibrator to give a buzz to your scrotum and your partner’s clit or perineum. Use the bullet on its own to discover where your body likes a little buzz and exactly what drives your partner crazy. Get creative and enjoy the versatility of this two-in-one toy!

Dildos

You don’t need a vagina, or even to play with vaginas, to enjoy a dildo. Dildos are perfect for maximizing anal sensations for anyone and fulfilling oral fantasies. Some dildos look like real penises if you’re into that. There are sparkly pink dildos to suit your style. Some are handheld and manually controlled. Others have thrusting, rotating, or vibrating mechanisms. Some have an ergonomic shape to fit in the rectum, others for a vagina, and some for both. Decide what you want to do with your dildo, or find one that’s versatile!

Vaginal & Anal, Suction Cup & Strap-On Dildo

Combine the possibilities of anal and vaginal penetration into one ergonomic dildo. This silicone toy looks unremarkable, so it’s enjoyable whether or not you’re attracted to penises. The Lovehoney Sensual Waves Dildo has waves up the shaft for stimulation and pleasure of the G-spot or P-spot. It has a suction cup for creative self-play. It hooks into a harness for strap-on play with a partner. Do you want to peg or be pegged? Check out the harnesses on SpareParts if you want to start some strap play.

Strap-On Kit

If you want to play with different relationship dynamics in the bedroom and see how it feels to give or receive penetration, start playing with a strap-on. The BASICS Strap-On Harness Kit comes with a unisex harness to suit any wearer, and two dildo options to suit any receiver. The dildos have realistic anatomy and the texture of a penis, but they’re pink to keep them interesting for anyone. Switch roles within your relationship so you both give and receive. Explore vaginal or anal penetration. Don’t forget the lube!

Anal Toys

Everyone has an anus (as far as I know) and therefore has a world of butt pleasure to explore! Anal pleasure feels different for everyone and is intimidating to many. However, those willing to try often find a whole new world of possibilities in their sex life. Try some of these toys that are perfect to stimulate anyone’s bum.

Butt Plug Training Set

Butt plugs are an amazing addition to the bedroom for anyone who wants a new sensation, knows they enjoy anal play, and even for vulva owners in search of their G-spot. That’s right, butt plugs could potentially change the angle of your vaginal canal, allowing access to your G-spot. Otherwise, it provides stimulation to those oh-so-sensitive nerve endings in the anus and perhaps a P-spot. Enjoy a full feeling and, therefore, more intense orgasms.

Butt plugs are a great first step into anal play but still loved by pros. The Lovehoney Booty Bound Anal Training Silicone Butt Plug Set comes in multiple sizes to introduce you to the world. Explore the wide array of options, including bedazzled ends, glass for extra glide, vibrations for more intensity, or attached tails for fun play.

Beginner Anal Beads

If you already know you or your partner love anal pleasure, try out anal beads! This string of beads starts small and progressively gets larger as you go deeper. Sensually insert them with plenty of lube as things are heating up, and gently pluck them out as you orgasm for an indescribable sensation. The sizes vary for different sensations during insertion and removal.

BASICS Anal Beads 6 inch are smooth and bendable for easy insertion and comfortable contouring to your body. They’re made with smooth PVC for a glidey insertion and have a large finger loop at the end to ensure safety and easy removal.

Prostate Massager

Okay, you caught me. You pretty much need a prostate to enjoy this toy, but it’s too good not to mention! The Aneros Eupho Syn Trident Prostate Massager has the perfect shape to easily insert into your rectum and massage your P-spot. The inside piece has different settings for vibrations and movement. The vibrations are more rumbly and deep than buzzy and intense. The outside piece also has a separate vibrator for added pleasure and possibilities. It’s remote-controlled for extra possibilities. Plus, it’s a good size for beginners yet still impressive to pros.

BDSM Gear

Perhaps the most inclusive genre of sexual exploration is BDSM. If you and your partner want to explore fantasies of domination, submission, kink, or sadomasochism, try out BDSM gear. This style of sex requires lots of trust and communication.

According to doctor of human sexuality and sex coach Dr. Emily Morse, “Kink offers an endless world of sexual play possibilities, but here are some benefits to kink as a whole:

• “can help your relationship, by building greater intimacy and trust
• “offers a deep way to explore the feelings you want to experience during sex
• “allows you to try erotic power exchange (more on that below) in a safe, sexy way
• “adds novelty to the sexual experience

“Intrigued? I thought you might be!”

Talk with your boo and see what they’re into, then start building your toy chest of fun things to play with!

Blindfold

Blindfolds are an easy and classic introduction to BDSM play. When you cover your eyes, your other senses heighten and you’re treated to an element of surprise as your partner explores your body. Using Ukissim Soft Satin Blindfold in the bedroom requires a bit of trust and surrender, which is a great stepping stone to the world of BDSM. It’s also great for those who just want an extra kick of adventure in the bedroom. You can use it as a restraint for your wrists or ankles, too! Be creative.

Ask your partner if you can blindfold them the next time you have sex with this lovely, satin blindfold. Discuss boundaries, consent, and a safe word. Then, treat them to an unreal experience of pleasure and exploration!

Bondage Kit

Interested in BDSM but not sure where to start? Already into BDSM and need a supply kit? Equip yourself with a feather tickler, leash with a collar, blindfold, paddle, flogger, gag, bondage rope, nipple clamps, and limb restraints all in one package. UTMI Bondage Kit gives you a sweet and thorough introduction to different tools to use in the bedroom.

Nipple Clamps

Nipple clamps are a classic toy for anyone to love. Bondage Boutique Adjustable Nipple Clamps easily pinch onto your nipple with adjustable settings to find the pressure of your liking. A cute chain between them adds a sexy look to anyone’s style. Leave them on yourself or your partner during any part of sex (my favorite is during oral) for an added sensation. You simply can’t stimulate the nipples all the time during sex! Allow nipple clamps to do it for you.

Bondage Tape

Forget handcuffs that are easy to break free from, uncomfortable, and limiting. PVC bondage tape sticks to itself and leaves you plenty of opportunity to tie one arm to the headboard, strap your boo’s arms to their chest, restrain their ankles together, or any other kinky fantasies you have. AKStore Fetish Bondage Tape comes in plenty of colors to suit your unique style. Consent and communication are key when engaging in bondage! Make sure you keep safety scissors nearby in case they shout “french fry” or whatever your safety word is.

Sex Furniture

Sex furniture comes in many shapes, sizes, and styles to explore different positions and possibilities in the bedroom. Sex furniture is helpful to older and disabled pleasure seekers to more comfortably get into their favorite positions. It accommodates any crazy, adventurous positions for those who want to explore something new. There are no gender limits!

Over-the-Door Sex Swing

Easily have sex standing up with a sex swing. Sex swings come in many different styles and positions, some with restraints or different seat styles. The Bondage Boutique Soft Over-The-Door Sex Swing easily slips onto any standard household door and provides great support for the swinger (pun intended, if you’re into that), thigh supports to comfortably hold you up, and wrist straps for control. Explore submissive play in fantasy positions.

Wedge Pillow

Find comfort and exploration in different sexual positions with a pair of wedge pillows. Rekink 2x Sex Pillow allows you to find support for different positions and elevate your pleasure. Use a single triangle, double them up, or turn them into a square. This seriously elevates pleasure for a lot of women when they prop their hips up. Men find it more comfortable and enjoyable when bent over in doggy style. Disabled people have the opportunity to explore different positions. Plus, the advertisement is of two women, which is extra motivation to support the company.

Where Do You Start?

Finding sexual satisfaction with people of all genders is a thrilling and inclusive adventure that celebrates the beauty of human connection. Breaking down gender barriers, embracing the diversity of experience, and communicating openly are your tools in this journey. Safety and self-discovery are your best companions, and celebrating the spectrum of human connection is the key to unlocking unknown pleasure. Embrace the exhilarating world of inclusive intimacy by using sex toys for endless exploration and satisfaction.

Published on Cupid’s Light October 2, 2023